I’m sure many of you have experienced a friendship where it seems as if, without your effort, there would be no friendship. So when is it acceptable to take circumstances into your own hands, realize what you deserve, and move on? I’ve asked myself these questions for years now. It’s hard to make that final decision in ending something you once put so much effort into, but we all know people change, people grow, and people move on. So I want to discuss when it is acceptable to realize that the friendship/relationship has changed and move on. Its never easy to do. All anger aside, giving up on something you once worked so hard for is definitely a challenge in itself. I find myself being the person in any relationship that apologizes merely because I don’t like fighting, whether I had something to apologize for or not. Maturity has helped me to admit to my wrongs and take a step outside of my shoes and see the situation from an outsiders perspective, but I find my fault to be apologizing when I have nothing to apologize for. For apologizing simply because I dislike conflict. Coming to the realization that a relationship is doing more harm than good is definitely a difficult one to come by. Rather than worrying about hurting someone’s feelings, it’s important to take initiative in guarding my own feelings. Doing what’s right for yourself is not always easy and in some cases, others may get hurt along the way, but in the long run, it truly does boil down to protecting your heart. I find it helpful to write out a list of pros and cons. The minute you realize that the cons are beginning to outweigh the pros is when it’s time to reevaluate. This should be the case in all relationships whether it be a romantic relationship, a friendship, or even a familial relationship. I can’t promise you it wont be difficult and it won’t hurt to let go of the memories and good times shared with that person, but I can promise you a weight will be lifted off your shoulders and time will heal the open wounds. Sometimes it takes losing a bad relationship to realize how many healthy, prosperous relationships can be built when there is effort on both parts.